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Birth trauma is a normal reaction to a traumatic or a  scary and bad experience after childbirth caused after a long labour, an emergency caesarean or any other clinical complications to do with childbirth. If you have experienced a deep trauma after a bad childbirth experience, you might be suffering from Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder-PTSD.

Birth trauma symptoms  can start immediately after childbirth or after a delay of weeks or months; but they usually appear within 6 months of a traumatic birth experience. Many people feel grief-stricken, depressed, anxious, guilty and angry after a birth trauma experience. Birth trauma symptoms are:

For women who have suffered birth trauma, the idea of getting pregnant again is terrifying,  frightening and impossible even to consider it.  Going through the whole ordeal again might make her feel sick with terror, even though deep down she wants to have another baby.  But in spite of taking all the precautions some women find themselves pregnant again and for many of them abortion is not an option.  These women are suffering from Tokophobia, which is the fear of getting pregnant. There is Primary Tokophobia and Secondary Tokophobia

Vaginismus  is vaginal tightness, finding it difficult or impossible to allow penetration during intercourse. They are painful spasmodic contractions of the vagina. Normally the vaginal sphincter keeps the vagina closed until the need to expand and relax. This relaxation allows intercourse, childbirth, medical examination and insertion of tampons. However, when vaginismus  does occur, the sphincter goes into spasm, resulting in tightening of the vagina.  With some women, vaginismus prevents all attempts at successful intercourse, which causes marked distress or interpersonal problems in addition to their birth trauma.

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You find yourself re-living events sorrounding the childbirth experience. This can happen both as a 'flashback' in the day and as nightmares when you are asleep.

"I was so shocked when I read your birth experience in your book Real Healing, it was so similar to my own and every feeling you wrote down, I had too. It’s amazing, I felt like I was the only one who felt like this, but now I know I'm not. Your book was written from the heart, and it made me cry as it brought all the emotions and visions back to me, but it also felt good to know it was actually helping me, to know there were others like me. Thanks again, your really helping me!”  Emily


"I feel I can now face my experience knowing there are people out there like yourself who have been through similar experiences and who understand what I'm going through. Thank you for your time Martha."  Ozlem


"It's comforting to know that there are people like you Martha, speaking on behalf of all of these women suffering from PTSD.  I think, like me, there are probably so many women out there that are being told that it is just Postnatal depression, but in reality it is PTSD. Thank you again!"  Cassie

Birth Trauma Counselling in Surrey

What is birth trauma

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I will be able to help you, I am the author of Real Healing, a book that talks about trauma after childbirth and they way to recovery

Real Healing After Caesarean

When do the trauma symptoms start

What is  Tokophobia

What is Vaginismus

more about Vaginismus

I will be able to help you, I am the author of Real Healing, a book that talks about trauma after childbirth and they way to recovery